Intimacy - What We're Really Looking For

As I was lying awake in the middle of the night, just before the full moon, I contemplated some of my recent experiences. The first was touching some of the little daisies that are springing up in our garden. They felt so soft, delicate, fresh and alive. They looked so perfect, vibrant and natural.
 
I was doing this just after feeding next door's chickens. They dove straight for the raspberries and then the almond pulp (that we make from making our own almond milk) - they love it! I watched them eat for a while, seeing who was claiming centre stage, how they interacted and who was being bossy. The group has changed over the last few months - the one who was most shy about claiming any food has grown and is now pecking at the others to get to it. They look healthy, love dirt baths and scratching and pecking around the garden. 

​The third was when I was helping neighbours shovel loads of mulch into their wheelbarrow to take to their new garden beds. We were chatting, catching up and getting to know each other better as well as interacting in (and with) the moment.
 
Lastly, was the inner work that I've been doing lately, exploring what seems to be working, what most definitely didn't and who I am at my core.
 
And I came to the realisation that what we're all really wanting and looking for in our lives is deeper intimacy - with ourselves, each other, the moment, our environment, the truth and our lives.
 
We want REAL connection. We desire to really know, experience, understand and appreciate everything.
 
We don't always know that's what we want, but we feel it. We feel dissatisfied. We feel that something's missing. We feel disconnected. We feel that there's something more, there must be, otherwise we wouldn't feel this way.

Normally, we try to remedy this by reaching for more - more food, more entertainment, more information, more excitement, more something - you know what I mean, right?

​However, the solution is to find what's missing in the first place. The answer is to dive in deeper and find that connection - to become more aware of what's happening right here, right now.

 
When you're talking with someone, are you really listening? Are you really curious about who they are, what makes them tick, or what their dreams and desires are? Are you really aware of what they're trying to say? Are you really interested?
 
When you're out for a walk, are you taking in your environment? Are you noticing the changes through the different seasons? Are you listening to the sounds around you - the birds, your feet on the ground, the wind in the trees? Are you feeling the weather and its effects on your body?
 
When you're eating, are you tasting each ingredient, or the magical alchemy of their combinations? Are you noticing their vibrant and tantalising colours?  Are you feeling their textures in your mouth? And are you aware of how hot or cool each of them is?

When you're with your lover, are you feeling the softness of their skin? Are you honouring their soul? Are you aware of their preferences as well as your own? Do you feel the electricity between your bodies? Do you communicate honestly, lovingly and curiously?

When you're sitting on a hill, by a lake or in a meadow, are you allowing yourself to breathe deeper? Are you letting your breath and heart rate match the gentle rhythms of the natural world around you? Are you really seeing that cloud, those leaves, that flower? Are you feeling the breeze on your skin, the water in your hand as you wave it through the lake, the connection between you and all that beauty?
 
Don't you feel more satisfied when you've spent time with someone who respects you, and wants to know you, understand you, and love you? How about offering that to someone - everyone - today?

How can you let your senses connect you to life today?
 
How can you use your curiosity to engage on a deeper level with people?
 
How can you use your awareness to see, feel, hear, love, enjoy and connect more?
 
I hope that you have a beautiful, intimate day!
 
Donna x